It doesn’t matter where you are in life, finding the right person is far from easy. Even harder still, is knowing if said person even likes you! So when the perfect one presents herself, you better be equipped to answer the call. Women are complex, but the laws of attraction are still fundamentally straightforward. See if you can spot these subtle clues to be sure she’s into you!
Verbal cues are a solid sign that a woman is attracted to you. Suggestive language such as “I want” or “I love” can express desire in a subtle way. Use of the word “we” or “us” also indicate signs of union and harmony. If words and phrases such as these ever flow into the conversation, be sure to capitalize and express yourself in the same tone and manner, further establishing a bond and mutual admiration. Try this:
You: “Have you ever been to ______ before?”
Girl: “No I haven’t, have you?”
You: “I haven’t, we should go sometime, just the two of us.”
Everyone has physical boundaries and crossing those sensitive lines requires trust. So if you think the night is going well and the conversation is going somewhere, try pulling off a gentle act of physical touch. Try putting your hand on her arm or elbow during conversation, or touch the arch of her back when guiding her through a door or passageway. Physical contact is a sign of affirmation that the woman does not find you intolerable. These are the best situations to try this:
- Sitting next to each other – if you’re at a bar, put your hand on her arm and ask her if she’d like another one. If you’re in a taxi, offer her your arm when she’s getting out.
- When you’re opening doors – say you’re going into a restaurant or leaving a store, open the door and gently touch the arch of her back as she’s walking through.
THE GIFT OF GIVING
Unless you’re a selfish guy that hates the sight of puppies, giving something to someone and doing something for others should trigger a rush of serotonin to your brain that introduces the feelings of empathy and accomplishment. Likewise, if there is a small favor you need attending to, try asking her for help. It could be something as simple as giving you a ride home or helping you pick up something at the local bodega. If she is willing to help you, this indicates that she is willing to go out of her way for you, which then enriches your significance to her. Most people feel a sense of altruism when helping others, and when a girl is into a guy, being as nurturing and maternal they are, they instinctively go out of their way to show they care. But always remember, generosity is a two way street, so make sure you’re pulling your end as well!